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Back on Track

So the truth is, I AM able to eat what I want and not gain weight, however eating rubbish food has taken away my will to get out of bed in the mornings.  I had no idea how much of a difference it made to have the right superfoods, herbs and supplements in my body.  I don't just want to look good, I want to live long and feel awesome.

So I'm back to resonable amounts of food and no junk food.  My body is thanking me already.

Hooray for murky looking smoothies that do awesome things to your body.  #superfoods #nutrition #wellbeing #strength


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Trying to Balance Things Out with Higher Levels of T.

I have discovered a new way of raising my testosterone through physical exercise.  I'm not sure if it's good or bad, because I have had to find ways of being able to eat as much as I want without gaining weight.  (The testosterone raises my appetite in a way that I just cannot stop myself from eating).

So I'm eating more and exercising in a particular way.  It's working so far.  Fingers crossed.



I do an interval, timed sprint, with Yoga and Qi Gong.

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Awkward Conversations...

Today I went along to Midsumma Carnival in Melbourne.  It's an LGBTI festival that starts off the Midsumma week of celebrating being Queer.  At this carnival all Transgender and Gender Diverse groups get an opportunity to get together and say, "hey we exist too!"  Which is very awesome.  However... I was unfortunately part of a conversation that disappointed and slightly shocked me.  :(

I stood there, not knowing how to respond to someone who was very casually and happily separating the two groups Transgender and Gender Diverse, as if there were no such people as Trans & Gender Diverse (the ones who identify as both, ie: me and many others).  So according to some people there aren't any Transgender Non-binary people...  Oh my God.  I thought we were moving forward with education and understanding of difference within our community, but alas some of us are apparently still scared of the "other," and of anyone that might threaten their own status.  I hope we can all mature and get passed this.

Please don't erase the existance of all non-binary identifying people, just because you aren't able to move slightly out of your own comfort zone to be able to be inclusive and affirming.  Transgender Non-binary people exist too, please get used to it.

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Post Surgery Home Care with Herbs and Supplements

ALWAYS CONSULT YOUR NATUROPATH FOR FURTHER INSTRUCTIONS AND ADVICE.  IF YOU HAVE ANY COMPLICATIONS OR NEED TO DISCUSS COUNTER-INDICATIONS WITH MEDICATIONS, SPEAK WITH YOUR NATUROPATH AND A TRUSTED GP.

ALL OF THIS INFORMATION IS TO EQUIP YOU WITH INFORMATION TO HELP YOU BE PRO-ACTIVE ABOUT YOUR OWN HEALING AND BE PREPARED WITH POST OP CARE.  IT IS NOT PROFESSIONAL ADVICE, EVERYTHING MENTIONED IS A SUGGESTION AND IS WHAT WORKED FOR ME.  I WORKED OUT A HEALTH RECOVERY PLAN WITH MY NATUROPATH.

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As you may know by now, I was going to do a one minute video on this topic, but the information that you need for this kind of care simply doesn't fit into a one minute video and it is nicer to have reference point that you can refer back to as many times as you need to get the info that you want at any time.  Feel free to share the link with anyone you think may be able to use this kind of guidance.

There are several areas we need to cover.  I will put all of the info you need into their categories, so you don't have to string it together yourself.

There are several areas we need to look at and they all blend into each other and cross over, because they're all closely related and connected to each other.

Pain Relief and Lowering Inflammation

It's important to take whatever the doctor gives you.  If you are allergic to anything that you are prescribed, you need to discuss alternatives with your doctor as soon as possible.

When you come home from the hospital, you will no longer be on morphine, which is what they use to keep you as pain free as possible straight out of surgery.  Coming off morphine is difficult, so do whatever it takes to help you with the panic attacks that you might get when you're no longer on it.

Pain Relief: As mentioned above take what the doctor gives you.  There's no other way to get around this one.  There are some good alternatives at the healthfood store, but the herbs take a while to work.

Lowering Inflammation: Lowering inflammation is an easier think to tackle, although this will take time to do, it's a good idea to start working on this, while you take the pain meds, as it will help support the process of healing and pain relief.

Things to take:

  • Vitamin C: It's best to take it with your juice in the morning.  I used Melrose Vitamin C - Calcium Ascorbate.  It's in powder form and has the instructions on the packet.  This will help cleanse out the toxins that will have built up in your body that were administered to you during surgery.  It's non-acidic, which is important to note, because anything that is acidic is going to inflame your organs which is the opposite of what you want to do.

  • Anti-Inflammatory juicing: There are loads of recipes on the net.  Juicing can be your best friend at this time, since you might not have an appatite after surgery.  The juice can supply you with some nutrients that you might be missing out on and will definitely help you with one of the other problems with your body, that I will mention at the end.  (If you don't have your own juicing machine at home, I recommend borrowing one for at least a month).

  • Turmeric: If you can find this in liquid form, you will benefit from it much more, or else get something administered by a naturopath like Bio-ceuticals or Fussion Health - which is a Chinese herbal distributer, both available at most health food stores.

Mental Health: Coming off morphine is tough.  You might be fine, but the usual response to coming off morphine is panic attacks, sleepless nights and irritability. I recommend going for walks as soon as you are able.  Try not to spend too much time lying down.  Beds sores are nasty to have to deal with too. (I used Rebound, which is a cream I bought from Neways. I put that on a bed sore that I got and on my scar later on to help it heal quicker - Mat is a distributer for that if you want to buy some).

Things to Take:

  • Serotonin: In the Naturopathic world this is called SAMe 200 or 400.  They are two different strengths.  Discuss with a naturopath, as to which dosage you should take.  Serotonin is the neurotransmitter that makes us happy and relaxed.  It is also said to help with wound healing. Caution: If you are already on Anti-depressants, don't take this.  All of these suggestions are for people who only use natural remedies to heal.  If you are on any medications prescribed by a Bio-medicine doctor (your GP), you need to consult a naturopath about it all).

  • Homeopathic Melatonin: I found that the BIOGLAN brand of this from Chemish Warehouse worked a treat.  Melatonin is the sleep hormone.  This is the homeopathic version administered to the body via chewable tablets.  It's very inexpensive and could help you find some peace while trying to get to sleep at night.  The dosage for day time and night time use is on the bottle.

  • Meditation: I use a soothing meditation track (mp3) that I downloaded off the net.  It's important to download something that either gives instructions on how to meditate or just allows you to sit still a few moments a day or at least once a day. It will help you calm  down, heal faster and set you up for some deep sleep in the evening.  (Again getting a bit of a walk during the day is also going to help you get a bit of sleep during the night.


This part of the process is challenging.  You just wish the healing could finish already, but you have to let it take it's course.  I'll also say that I found that I didn't need to take the Serotonin for more than one bottle's worth.  When I got physically stronger, my mental health started to get better. If you are still experiencing mental health issues, seek advice from your psychiatrist, counsellor or GP.

Skin Repair and Wound Healing:


  • Tienchi Ginseng: This is a particular type of Ginseng that helps wound healing by decreasing bleeding, it also reduces swelling and bruising.

  • Magnesium: Is necessary for assisting with skin repair and also just happens to help with alkalising the body.

  • Zinc: David Wolfe says: "Zinc promotes cell division, cell repair, cell growth and the production of white blood cells.  This mineral is essential for cleansing the liver, repairing tissue and oxygenating the body." (Internet Reference: http://www.hungryforchange.tv/article/eating-for-beauty

A quick note on nausea: Ginger in powder or liquid form is the best.  Always use organic. Also I ended up finding out by accident that Cacao nibs or beans were/was really good for nausea.  My only explanation for the cacao working is the amount of B vitamins that are supposed to be present in the beans.  Drinking peppermint tea and burning peppermint oil can help too.

Getting the Bowels Moving:

You're welcome to go right ahead and use laxatives, but I preferred something a little gentler on my intestines.  I drank a lot of water and only consumed herbal teas everyday.  My tea leaves of choice were: Ginger, Lemon Balm and Peppermint.  I also found that peppermint tabelts from the chemist helped with wind and bowel movements.

I used Vitamin C as mentioned above.  When I used the powder, I made up a very high dose of it - it basically cleaned out my whole system very quickly.  It was a bit brutal, but sometimes it can get to the stage where you're in a bit of pain, so you need that extra bit of help.  Ask a naturopath for dosages on that.

Another really good herb to take in tea form is Senna.  It is the key ingredients of most laxatives, but on it's own as a tea it can be quite gentle while still getting the job done.  This is usually available from most health food stores and is very inexpensive.  When I buy leaves like this I use one of my plungers, which is designated for tea only and have a pot of it during my morning or afternoon.

Last Note: Post Surgery Pads:

This is for post surgery bleeding from your internal wound.  If you have any left over, send them to my friends at:

Melbourne Period Project:
http://www.melbourneperiodproject.org.au/

Note: Another thing that can flare up after having your uterus removed is Hypothyroidism.  In my next post I will talk about how I overcame the issues that came up with this.

REMEMBER ALWAYS CONSULT YOUR NATUROPATH FOR FURTHER INSTRUCTIONS AND ADVICE.  IF YOU HAVE ANY COMPLICATIONS OR NEED TO DISCUSS COUNTER-INDICATIONS WITH MEDICATIONS, SPEAK WITH YOUR NATUROPATH AND A TRUSTED GP.

ALL OF THIS INFORMATION IS TO EQUIP YOU WITH INFORMATION TO HELP YOU BE PRO-ACTIVE ABOUT YOUR OWN HEALING AND BE PREPARED WITH POST OP CARE.  IT IS NOT PROFESSIONAL ADVICE, EVERYTHING MENTIONED IS A SUGGESTION AND WHAT WORKED FOR ME.  I WORKED OUT A HEALTH RECOVERY PLAN WITH MY NATUROPATH.











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Singular Use of the Pronoun They Campaign Update

Hi,

if you signed this petition and wondered what's happening with it, check your inboxes because I sent an update on what's going on.  There aren't any great replies from politicians, so I'm just trying to make a change in society and culture at large on my own, but it would be better if you helped spread the word.  :)

Here is an example of what I sent into the Oxford Dictionary, as a new inclusion.
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they
pronoun/ singular  \ˈthā\
1.     Used to refer to one person, of dual gender identity or someone who is genderless.
noun
2.     A person, who is not distinctly male or female.  ie: Androgynous, Transmasculine, Transfeminine, Genderqueer, Genderfluid, Bigender, Genderambiguous.

3.     A person who does not identity with either gender.  ie: Genderless or Agender.

Origin of They
Middle English, from Old Norse their, masculine plural demonstrative & personal pron.; akin to Old English thæt that…
First Known Use: 13th century.

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If you can send something in like this too, they might just listen.

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How to Pronounce Mx

Apparently the most popular way to pronounce Mx is Mex, with a toneless vowel.

Suits me, since my first name is pronounced as 2 letters, being spelled out.  Mx ML Lovely.


Graph courtesy of Spacious Perspicacious




Edit 03/06/2015:

Transfemme people are going with Mix and Transmasculine are going with Mex.  :)
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Being Grateful

I'm experiencing a pretty low moment in my life right now, so maybe I should do some journalling...

Here is a list of the crapy things going on in my life:

  • 1st Major Surgery was postponed last week.

  • The day before that I had a car accident.  Now I'm without a car.

  • I keep having trouble with my gender marker changes in institutions, because my gender marker is now X.

  • I'm unemployed and can't committ to a job for at least the next 5 months, due to having 2 major surgeries that I need to heal from.

  • Now that my gender marker is X, I don't have the right to marry my fiance in my country...

  • Facebook thinks I'm committing identity fraud, because my surname is legally "Lovely," and that sounds too much like a made up name... So no admining (from me) of our support group and Facebook Page (for Redefining Androgyny).

  • I am being forced to sit down and read a book or something "normal" like that.  It's driving me insane, but teaching me a lot. (I am learning to trust the process and put myself in God's hands...again...)

I have decided not to get stressed about this, which was a difficult decision to make, while my panic attacks started to creep in...  :(  So I bought some hardcore herbs to ward off depression and anxiety, so I can do what it is that God wants me to do.  Stand still and know that she is God.  She's very good at getting my attention.

Besides, it could always be worse.   I still have a roof over my head, we can afford basic nutrition and health products.  We have warm beds to sleep in and I have a loving and supportive family around me.  Not everyone has that.

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My Identity...

Yes I am Transgender... and Non-binary... so that means I have to do a lot of explaining most of the time.  Hopefully the world will catch up with us Non-binary types.  One day the world will stop asking so many questions and just love and accept anyway.

For now, all of our Transgender and Gender Diverse friends are invited to a presentation, with the details circulating through the community.  Private Message me if you don't already have the time and venue.

A panel of Trans and Gender Diverse people will be speaking about how they have been travelling through transition in a positive way, and others will be talking about their positive experience of being Genderqueer.

I will be one of the guests on the panel and I look forward to hearing everyone's stories and input.  It should be a fun and interesting afternoon.

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Bobby and Alice

If you're looking for an interesting and artistic project to be involved in, then get acquainted with the elegant styles of Bobby and Alice.  It will be a collection of stories and photographs about firsts.  After you have read the details on the website, you might want to contribute, so check it out. bobbyandalice.com.au

A Quote from the website:

"Openly talking about our desires and experiences, enables us to understand the spectrums of  sexuality and identity, to you and us. Together we are uncovering what it is that turns us all on and simply what makes us, us."



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